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Mission: Get Over Yourself

I’m a part of ItStartsWith.Us, you may have seen this button before on my side bar. Last Week I got the e-mail containing the week’s mission. Here it is:

The Mission

“During the next week, take 15 minutes to let go of your pride in an area you feel it’s holding you back.

My brother and I had a talk about pride last night, and it made me think about how often it can get in the way of us moving forward in a relationship or some other area of our lives. So this week, take a moment to examine your life and see if pride is the reason you won’t admit you were wrong to someone, or maybe won’t ask for help on something . . . the list goes on. You know you. Sort it out. -Nate.”

I know that this is something well all have a problem with when we are being completely real with ourselves. I know it’s completely true for me, whether I realize it or not, or like to admit it for that matter – it’s completely and utterly true. Period.

Some examples:

-First, some days I have a problem being completely real on my blog. Some of you may or may not have noticed this but sometimes my posts draw emotionally farther away. It’s true. Because sometimes it’s harder to be completely real in front of the entire world. But really, let’s be honest – this is.my.blog. This shouldn’t be a place I draw away from being real. Because the truth is – it’s.MINE. take it for what it is or click unfollow. Because I’m human, I have weaknesses, flaws, bad days and the poor, Pitiful me kinds of days, too. And that’s completely ok.

-How about the days where I’m having a bad day, every thing is wrong and I snap and my husband, poor Ryan, and my pride is just a little too big to say, “I’m just having a bad day.” Or the days that I have too much pride to say, “I’m feeling a bit emotionally weak today” when he says something or looks at me in just the right kind of wrong way, and I bust into tears and try to shut him and everyone else out.

– When I try to take on the world, pushing myself to my breaking point and I’m to proud to say, ” I need help” but instead I snap back and say, “I got it!!” because even thought I don’t “got” it sometimes it’s harder to ask for help than surrender.

-Or how about the arguments whether it’s with Ryan or someone else- and I’m too proud to say, You know what – “I think you are the one right. I’m sorry.”

Anyone relate to any of these????

So tell me friends, join in on the mission and tell me When Does Your Pride Get In The Way? Want me to feature it? E-mail me!

  • This seems like a really neat project! I am going to check it out and maybe join. Thanks for posting it!!

  • Yo, thanks for the shoutout!

  • This is an excellent topic, Kristina. Ever notice how the flawed characters are the ones we love to watch and even root for on TV and in movies and literature? Flaws and weaknesses are nothing to be ashamed of. They make us interesting. They are endearing gualities. If you reframe it you are actually giving your partner a gift by asking for his or her help because everybody likes to feel wanted and needed. It’s important to have a partner who is willing to get real with you because it can’t work if it’s a one way street. Have a wonderful evening, Ms. K!

  • I hate asking for anything from anyone. My pride and the fact that I have been a responsible adult for 32 years has kept me from doing such. The beginning of this year I broke down and had to ask my step-son for financial help while we looked for a cheap rent somewhere. I seriously was at a breaking point. The stress was incredible. But I did what I did and I also shared my situation with all my blog buddies because I just couldn’t hold it in anymore. Low and behold we found the Love Shack, my step-son will help us until our cases are settled and a bunch of you wonderful people actually sent money along with well wishes and support. I’ve gained more since February than I’ve ever had before. Friends, supporters and unconditional love from total strangers. If that’s not enough to make a change I don’t know what is.

    Feel free to post this if you want. I’m glad I put my pride aside for once in my life.

  • I agree! We all have our flaws, weaknesses and our strengths. But we may not all know how or when to handle them! This is something I need to work on when I need help! Good post! Love you and I know I can talk to you and youcan always talk to me!!

  • Great post. I love that you’ve really thought about it and added your own examples.
    I have a LOT of pride… but thankfully it doesn’t get in the way of me apologising. I think embarrassment and pride go hand in hand with a lot of people.

  • I think you definitely met the challenge.

    I find myself putting up a front every now and then on my blog as well, but I think it’s mostly because I’d like it to be a positive outlet.

    Hey, if you ever need someone for your Friend Feature Friday, just e-mail me to let me know!

  • Thanks for this. I needed it! I think I let my pride get in the way of a lot of things in my life. I can relate to your husband examples! I prefer to never be wrong. 🙂 I think that’s where I’ll start.

  • Great subject! I am terrible at asking for help or accepting it. I am working on that though!

  • Great post, which I seem to have missed yesterday! You have been very honest there, and I admire you so much for that. I think we’re all guilty of all the things that you have mentioned. I’m glad to say that now I’m older, I will apologize for something I’ve done or said which I shouldn’t have. Don’t be too hard on yourself Kristina!

  • This is amazing.

    I suppose lately I’ve felt really awkward being the guest of honor at my baby showers. I hate asking people for anything; I’d rather do it myself and be beholden to no one. But I realize we’ve been very blessed to have friends and family want to help us out like they have.

  • Girl, this is a stunning post. I especially liked how you said, “sometimes it’s harder to ask for help than surrender.” I love coming back to your blog each week.

  • Amen.

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